What a Success to be More Assertive!

BY: Neighbors’ Consejo|

Human beings are social by nature, the need for survival made us develop relationships with our environment, which trigger behaviors that help us to adapt and thus maintain our well-being.

These relationships start with the way we communicate. Expressing our thoughts and ideas can be difficult and much more so, when we are influenced by our beliefs, emotions and feelings, it is necessary to learn to express ourselves in harmonious and respectful ways that are also assertive.

However, what is assertiveness? Well, being assertive means being able to stand up for our own or others people’s rights in a calm and positive way, without being either aggressive or passively accepting ‘wrong [1] ’.

There are many benefits to being assertive, such as becoming great managers, negotiate successful solutions with a team, being problem solvers, having great job satisfaction and of course reducing stress and anxiety, among others [2] .

Therefore, it is important that we all learn to be assertive, for this reason we share some tips with you [3] :

  • Value yourself and your rights.
  • Voice your needs and wants confidently.
  • Acknowledge that you cannot control other people’s behavior.
  • Express yourself in a positive way.
  • Be open to criticism and compliments.
  • Learn to say “no”.
  • Review your progress.

In addition, according to the portal TeensHealth, there are many ways to be assertive: You can give an opinion or say how you feel, you can ask for what you want or need, you can disagree respectfully, you can offer your ideas and suggestions, you can say “no” without feeling guilty, and you can speak with others more openly and honestly [4] .

For this reason, being assertive will help you have better social relationships and increase your self-confidence, which benefits your mental well-being.

References

 [1] https://www.skillsyouneed.com/ps/assertiveness.html

 [2] https://www.mindtools.com/pages/article/Assertiveness.htm

 [3]https://www.mindtools.com/pages/article/Assertiveness.htm

 [4]https://kidshealth.org/en/teens/assertive.html#:~:text=Assertiveness%20is%20a%20healthy%20way,a%20job%20or%20college%20interview.

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